Martha And Mary Days

Our Martha And Mary Day

With a cup of coffee in hand, I launched my morning. Looking down at my to-do list, I noticed that it would  be a "Martha and Mary" day.

It was a day to prepare for teaching a class in The First Degree of The Radiance Technique®.


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My activities would consist of:

  • Martha for all the washing, tidying and cleaning to prepare the classroom, and preparing a bit of food for our sustenance, and

  • Mary for the organization of the teaching plans and honing clear instructions in preparation for the class. I would also take some time to focus on the deeper energies with TRT® to provide a supportive, personalized class for the student.

The Bible Story Of Martha And Mary

What do I mean by a Martha and Mary day?

There is a story referenced in the Bible in the Gospel of Luke 10:38-42:*

As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.

But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, ‘Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!’

’Martha, Martha,’ the Lord answered, ‘you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.’

Growing up, my family had a 10-volume set of children's books printed in the mid-1950s – The Bible Story by Arthur Maxwell. I don't know how they got them. Perhaps someone came to the house as a door-to-door salesman.

I loved to read when I was young and like most children, could read the same thing over and over again. This set of books was no exception. I remember clearly the New Testament story of Martha and Mary.

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Martha Or Mary – Who Was Right?

The story stuck with me, because I always felt sorry for Martha. The story painted her in a somewhat negative light.

It didn't seem very fair. As is often the case with dualities, it's not always so clear which one is which.

Because who knows? Maybe there were extenuating circumstances – perhaps Mary had a reputation of not doing her fair share of work around there. If we all sat around in constant meditation, others could get upset about tasks left undone, especially meals missed.

It's all about everything in the right timing and balance, isn't it?

My final analysis was that Martha probably needed to relax a bit and get in touch with the deeper purposes and Mary probably needed to pull her full weight a bit more.

Perhaps this parable was a gentle reminder that, in the chaos of this world, we need to remember to seek the inner light and not let our inner journey get consumed by outer activities.

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Martha And Mary In Balance In Our Lives

Perhaps this story is a good reminder for us to set aside outer activities and to carve out time to be more in touch with our reflective side.

Joanne Weaver wrote a book with this very idea in mind, entitled: Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World.  She is quoted here:

While the world applauds achievement, God desires companionship.
The world clamors, ‘Do more! Be all that you can be!’
But our Father whispers, ‘Be still and know that I am God.’

We want the qualities of both Martha and Mary, because both aspects are needed and desired. In fact, when these two energies are in balance, each one contributes to the loving qualities of caring. The trick is that neither should overpower the other.

Keeping everything in balance, however, can be quite the juggling act. Distraction is at an all-time high in our modern lives. Just look at all of us bent over our phones.

With unrelenting daily pressures to complete outer tasks and with little reward, if any, for pursuing an inner journey (at least from a societal standpoint) – it's easy to become overwhelmed and distracted by all our "Martha" obligations.

Nurture Your Inner Martha and Mary

If your beliefs are not of this order, you can substitute the word "God" with your own definition of your inner voice, guiding light, or meditative center.

With use of The Radiance Technique® (TRT®), students of TRT® can bring a quality of meditation to their activities. It's about weaving a more meditative approach to everything that we do.

When we use TRT® hands-on and Radiant Touch®, it's easy to incorporate supportive, radiant energy into our lives even in the midst of running around.

TRT® also enhances our dedicated times of meditation.

I still feel a bit sorry for Martha being called-out like that. I hope she got over it, finished what she was doing, and then relaxed and enjoyed the rest of the evening.

What about you?

Do you sometimes find you are more Martha, or more Mary?


*Please refer to the Heart Notes Disclaimer regarding religious references